Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Brand Vs. Generic



Over the years I have eliminated more and more foods and drugs from my diet. After having three sinus surgeries, I finally found out that ibuprophen and some drugs found in Claritin and the like arehuge proponents of nasal polyps. So, I gave up my love affair for Advil to save my nose. This event along with realizing that cough medicine never really did help my cough and decongestants didn't de-congest me, I started looking for alternatives; why mess with my body if it doesn't do that much good? So, I started using a NeilMed Sinus Rinse (fabulous!), then essential oils (amazing!) and then coconut oil (take it with me everywhere I go!) and other 'natural' and 'preventative' remedies.

Then, when I started noticing issues with my son and the possibility of ADHD, I started looking at alternative and natural methods of treating the disorder. When nothing seemed to help, the condition very steadily got worse and at the recommendation of both the psychologist (second diagnosis) and therapist, I decided to try medication. And for being so avidly against medications when not necessary, I will say that Concerta and Zoloft are absolute blessings in my life and my sons. I still struggle with the fact that he has to be on them but fewer calls from school teachers and the principal and a better environment in the home are absolutely worth it.

With that being said, one of the side effects of these medication (particularly the stimulant) is loss of appetite. Preston didn't seem to lose his appetite initially too much which was a relief because he is THE pickiest eater already on record. It was about June however when I noticed sandwiches were coming home from school uneaten and he really became disinterested in food. I would still find snacks and what not in his room (welcome ant colony!) which I just barely figured out was because when he would come off the medication, he'd be starving, not want to get in trouble for rummaging in the kitchen after hours and squirrel food in his room.

I just refilled his prescription last night and asked if his medication had been switched to the generic - which it had and had been since May. I asked them to refill the prescription using the brand. He did refill it but told me after-the-fact that the medication was made by the same manufacturer. Now, here's my take: the drug companies insist that there is NO difference between brand and generic - ingredients are the same. I think differently because when I switched from Yasmine to the generic, I felt sick all the time and had some weird side effect that I can't remember what it was, but found numerous other women online experiencing the same symptoms. Now, if appetite wasn't a factor until June, right after his medication went from brand to generic, something's up. That is my personal experience and I'm sticking to it.

I started giving him the brand medication today and I will watching closely to see if his appetite changes. Anybody else have an experience with brand vs. generic?

Monday, July 18, 2011

I CHANGE FIRST

I started this blog with the idea of 'simplicity' as being 'the secret in the sauce.' Over the last several weeks, however, I felt as though there was something more to it. I guess I was pushing away from the simplicity of just keeping things simple. Ironic, isn't it? But, the overarching predecessor for the mantra of simplicity came to me the other night after my husband and I had a 'discussion.' We broke the very important rule of "Do not discuss anything of weight when it is late." After our tiff - that usually ends with him going to bed and me being all spun up - I came down to our office and pulled out a book "How to Make a Good Marriage Great," by Victor B. Cline. I read about how to communicate, what a man needs from a woman, the issues facing re-marriage and blended families and setting goals as a couple to move forward. The one thing I wrote down on my scratch paper in capital letters and underlined is, "I CHANGE FIRST."

This goes along with what I have been having drummed into my head at the therapist's office for the last six months and with the alcoholic anonymous prayer that reaches out to every soul on this earth: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." That's the meat of it, but the line that follows is of equal importance: "Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardships as the pathway to peace."

I can only control myself. This truly is the 'secret in the sauce.' How I react to life is what will make or break me and will certainly have an unprecedented affect on those around me. As a survivor of divorce, mother to a child with depression, ADHD and ODD, step-parent in a blended family and simply a woman who has struggled with her self esteem and body image, this idea of "I have control of myself and myself alone" is monumental; and I can happily say, finally taking root.

This is the secret to my sauce. I am learning on a daily basis how to apply it to every facet of my life. My goal is to be happy, to learn and progress and to love and raise my kids right. My marriage is my first priority as it is the foundation of our home. My relationship with my kids is more important than most of the little battles I have been choosing to fight with them and if they know that our relationship as mother and child is more important than anything, they will have a greater propensity to trust in me and what I am teaching them. They also are in control of only themselves and they will make decisions in their life that they will live with; I am not accountable for the road they CHOOSE. But I am very much accountable for what I teach them and the example I am. I can olny pray that I do the best job possible and that they will choose a life of happiness and progression as well. "Do your very best and forget the rest." More than anything, "I change first."