I guess this is where I tell you my story. I grew up skiing and mountain biking and need to be playing outside! As that isn't possible to be doing all the time, I do a lot of reading (these days mostly informational reading - much to the chagrin of my mother, and myself at times), cleaning and organizing, homework with the kids, cooking and trying to stay happy as a mom, step-mom and wife. These are really my most stressful and difficult roles and the ones that I spend my reading-time researching on how to improve.
We are a blended family with a yours, mine and ours. I've got three boys at home and it makes my house nuts 24-7 which I won't deny is tough for me. I like quiet, calm and predictability which most assuredly does not fall in line with boys. I always only planned on having two but life doesn't always turn out the way we think it will (a fact that most of the time I'm grateful for). There are days however where I wish there was just a little more stability and normalcy (whatever that means; it sounds good no matter how elusive or undefineable). Biking, board games and funny movies help keep me grounded and provide some of that normalcy even if just for an hour or two. I love history (especially World War II history), a good hamburger (yes, I do love red meat!), airplanes and a good laugh. I try to find humor in life's challenging situations - laughing is so good for the soul. And rather than looking at the reality of life being rough at times, I am trying to consider that life just provides ample opportunities to learn and improve.
I love to play in the kitchen; I enjoy the challenge of finding recipes that don't use naughty ingredients and trying them out on my kids. Some are successful; it can be a bit tricky attempting to re-train taste buds. Even more tricky when you have a very, very picky eater. I just try to remember that most kids don't like vegetables - I didn't until I was in college (true). And now I'll eat the most bizarre foods you can imagine. In fact, here's a fun fact - the first time I ever tried pineapple was when I was 27 years-old. How sad is that? I'd been missing out. When it comes to veggies I love my veggies except for peas and beets. Beets taste like dirt. Come to think of it, so do Brazil nuts but I love those! I don't know what my deal is...
As for my blog, it began as an outlet for me and the stress that comes from parenting. I still vent from time to time but as I have researched and studied, it became a great way to share what I have learned in hopes of helping other people in their journey of self progression and familial success. It begins and ends with us as individuals and taking care of yourself first. I want other parents in my position to have a wellspring of good information that is useful to them and their decision-making processes. Most importantly - you aren't alone as a parent or a person! The journey that my Creator has put me on has changed the way I live my life and it has shaped me for the better. There will always be struggles but it is helpful to have an arsenal of strategies to have on hand at any one time and when all else fails, find the positives, shift your focus, re-frame your thoughts and recognize your blessings and be grateful.
I do believe that our thoughts are boomerangs and we are creating our life for better or for worse. I only have control over me. I always feel better at the end of the day if I have at least kept myself in check when I haven't been successful with my kids or my husband. There are those days when when all I can do is pray and run to a kickboxing class! Oh but then the love I have for myself and my efforts and my little family. Doesn't your heart melt looking at this pic? Sigh.
All in all, I'm just trying to find my way through everything as gracefully as possible and stick to my values. I will take all the help I can get and all the friends and advice I can get along the way! Thanks for reading and embarking on this journey with me.
B MAMA'S RULES TO LIVE BY
I've thrown in a few of my favorite rules to live by. It's always nice to have them written down somewhere as well for quick reference. These are some of my Life's Rules to Live By...
* Always accept a compliment
* Don't say something unless you are sincere
* Moderation in all things
* It's good to stop and watch once in awhile
* Don't worry about the laundry, go and feed the geese with the kids
* Not everything will go the way I want it to
* It always takes longer than you think
* Walk softly and carry a big stick
* Relax and trust the natural process of life
* An act only works on an audience
* Trust but verify (Ronald Regan)
* Do what is hard and your life will be easy. Do what is easy and your life will be hard.
* Do or do not; there is no try. (Yoda)
* Look for the positive
* Wake up and smile
* Be flexible
* It doesn't matter what you do, it's how you do it.
*Courage is being scared to death but saddling up anyway. (John Wayne)