My Secret


To any truly fabulous recipe there is one secret ingredient that makes the dish utterly amazing - "the secret in the sauce."

I am the only person I can change - I have no control over anybody but me. That is the secret in the sauce. It's all about me - how wonderful and horrible at the same time! How I react to the good and the bad will either lend to my wisdom or lead to my undoing and will certainly have an unprecedented affect on those around me. For this reason, I must always come first - to love, to take care of, to master.

Everything else will fall into place thereafter.

I've learned this secret the hard way through personal experience. As a divorcee, mother to a child with ADHD and ODD; step-parent in a blended family and as an ordinary gal trying to make it all work, I know that true happiness will only come from me; it is not dependent on anyone or anything.

Happiness is a choice, not some destination that we will arrive at when everything in life magically falls into place. Nothing worthwhile is easy and nothing easy is worthwhile; every single day of our life will take effort and self-mastery. It isn't meant to come freely or easily or without bumps in the road; without challenge there would be no opportunity to progress and learn. I am the only person I have control over and I choose to change first.

"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardships as the pathway to peace."

Life is about you and your journey.