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I had another runaway attempt last week by my little Preston and he has been really pushing me to see how patient and in-control I can be. Isn't that sweet of him? I guess when I seem un-breakable somebody is bound to want to see if they can crack me. What a joke! Jillian Michaels has come close to breaking me in her Ripped In 30 workouts and she even quoted Ernest Hemingway, "We are stronger in the places we are broken." "With that being said, I'm going to break you!" And with that being said, Jillian is my pick-me-up for this week. She is wellspring of wisdom and she gives out some pretty fantastic nuggets at the end of her fourth workout which I have quoted below. We all need something extra to help us get through tough moments and I've been repeating after her to keep it in my mind to pull out when I need it most. And I have been needing it more than once a day for the last week or two. Forgive me, I didn't get her quote exactly, but most of it. Regardless, it is some good stuff. 
"Take a moment and think about who you are. What you brought (bring) to the table. How present you are. You can be that way in every facet of your life. You can be anything you want to be at anytime that you choose to be it. Doing my workouts takes a strong, focused and determined individual. That's who you are. You don't need to take on anybody else's crap. When does it come time to say enough is enough? When does it come time to say "this is for me." I do this for me. I have one obligation to the world and this is it - to to be  the best you can be. You've been brought here to this place at this time to be uniquely yourself. You know the quote, "everybody else it taken. " You have one choice - to be yourself. Be the best you always. It simply means prioritizing your life, love your self the way you do your friends, family, neighbors, coworkers.  When you are strong you can lead by example and then you will be able to properly support everyone else in your life. Inhale the possibilities and exhale all the negativity and self-doubt you've been carrying around all your life."

The only person I have control over is myself. I can be strong but I have to take care of myself first and actually build my strength. Why else do they tell you on airplanes to put your mask on first? How can you help your kiddo if you are already passed out? I can't handle Preston if I have no reservoirs to draw from. I am strong and I just have to remember that when I need it most.

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